Thursday, January 10, 2013
Military Myth Busting: 7 Common Spouse and Family Stereotypes
I decided to bust some of the more common military myths. While I think people are generally supportive of military families, the disconnect between civilian and military families is growing.
This military-civilian disconnect can lead to some serious misunderstandings, so I want to set the record straight on the most common military myths I have heard regarding Military s/o's and families.
Military s/o's are a very diverse group with a variety of individual interests and values.
I came across a website where women were talking about these issues, here are some of the myths that are going around.
Military Myth 1: Military personnel are not intelligent
Statistics from military recruiting show that service members between 18-24 have more college education than their civilian counterparts. Furthermore, military personnel are highly trained and educated in their field. Service members are expected to be competent in highly specialized fields and be able to make judgement calls.
Military Myth 2: Military couples marry young
Everyone can probably think of a young military couple who rushed to the aisle when they hardly knew each other. I will also tell you that some of these relationships actually turn out well, so don’t be too quick to judge. Military spouses are not all young either. On average military personnel marry only about a year younger than their civilian counterparts.
Military Myth 3: Military s/o's are women
Male spouses and boyfriends account for seven percent of all military s/o's. About half of that seven percent is comprised of dual-military marriages.
Military Myth 4: Military s/o's have no career aspirations
Many military s/o's are employed and many more run businesses out of their home. A larger than average number of military s/o's have chose to stay at home because of child care concerns, home schooling or difficulty finding a job. In the end, this is a decision families make based on their situation.
Military Myth 5: Military spouses are lazy and get married for benefits
If you want to live a life of luxury, I would not advise you to marry a service member. Even considering benefits service members will never make what their civilian counterparts earn. Military spouses and even girlfriends are the opposite of lazy; they volunteer, raise children, handle home repairs, juggle finances and get involved in the community.
Military Myth 6: Military families don’t pay taxes and get lots of benefits
All federal taxes and most state taxes still apply to military personnel. Only service members serving in a tax-free combat zone are exempt from federal taxes. Many people assume that military get free housing, free healthcare and free education as well as a free retirement plan. While there are many good benefits available they are not that simple; many benefits do not cover everything or have some cost associated.
Military Myth 7. Military s/o's cheat
There are infidelities in civilian and military relationships alike. The potential for loneliness or isolation that may come with deployment can perhaps amplify the behavior, but this does not mean that all military couples are unfaithful. Many military couples are committed and have never had a problem with infidelity.
What military myth or stereotypes have you heard? What do you say to people if they mention these stereotypes? Let us know in the comments!