Advice. Asked for. Given.

Beware: The rant i'm about to have is ONLY directed to wives and girlfriends who REFUSE to ask and accept advice when someone goes OUT of THEIR way to give it to them. One of my girlfriends who's s/o that she's been with for a little over 2 month's is in the military. She was posting status' that only made it seem like she was wallowing in self pity. I told her everything was gonna be ok and gave her advice to handle it. She took that as i was trying to "tell her what to do" and i was "acting like i knew everything".


Everyone needs a piece of advice every once awhile in their life. It might be a new haircut, dealing with a crying newborn, or a shaky marriage. But, who do you go to for that? Someone who has been there before right? Why is it that some wives/girlfriends are too proud to ask or even take advice? Yes, a lot of them do don't get me wrong. But, those who don't, does the "Oh, pity me" stop? No. Some wives/girlfriends feed off the pity people give them and the ego of, "I am a wife of a soldier." I am just sickened that these women are even considered a Military wife/girlfriend with their discipline, loyalty, and honor they supposably have. If anyone has been there and done that, take the fucking advice. Not continue your self pity so people can come up to you and comfort you like a spoiled child. You never see military spouses that are husbands wallow in their self pity that their wife is deployed or in the military.

These wives/girlfriends just want attention. And, sometimes, they are trying to fill the hole their husbands can't fill to be cared about. Any excuse is not an excuse for me. You are a grown fucking woman...act like it. So, for any wives/girlfriends who act that way and are reading this now....let me break down for you. *clears thoat and makes her voice high pitched like a K-5 teacher does*

Now children, what do we do when we are having a hard time and someone who has been in your shoes tries to help you? That's right! Take the advice! And, what do we not do??? Very good! Not continue to make an excuse to want attention. YAY!!!

If you want to act like a child, you are going to be treated as one. You might be going through a hard time but that is no excuse for wanting attention all the time. You might deny you want pity, but let's face it....it makes you feel good doesn't it? To be thought about, cared about, and reassured by strangers. Sound harsh? It really isn't, just the truth. These wives might not want to admit it, but deep down inside they know it is true. And, all the pity is directed toward their husband's line of duty. They knew what they were marrying into, what their husbands were signing up for. But, even before deployment the little pity parties start. If your husband is home with you, why tell every person you run across "My husband is in the military and he does this. And, his rank is this. So, he has these responsibilities." Are you looking for a pat on the back now, or a hug? Did you take the oath to serve your country? I didn't think so. If your husband is deployed, why is it ten times worse. "My husband deployed and I am surviving. And, don't cry for me. And, it is a sacrifice we make. And, he has been gone this long." Do you realize how annoying that sounds? Telling everyone in your path or online that your husband is deployed? It's one thing to tell people who ask. All your friends and family know, so why boast about it? You might as well have a sticker on your forehead so you can spread the word even more. If your husband is back from being overseas and injuried, mildly or severly, why do you need to be comforted all the time by anything or anyone.

So, I don't know if it is just the pity that you want or if you just don't love your husband as much as you love the title...maybe both. Put that in your juice box and suck on it.